Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Pakistani wedding Traditions!
Traditional Pakistani marriage celebrations lasts for four days.
First Day of the Celebration
On the first day, the bride and groom's families each dress in yellow, and celebrate the upcoming nuptials separately. The betrothed couple will not see each other from this day until the ceremony.
Second Day of the Celebration
The second day is reserved for a big celebration called Mendi that includes dancing and singing ancient songs.
On this day, the groom's family delivers the wedding dress to the bride's family, and then her family takes the groom's wedding attire to his family.
The bride's family string hundreds of colored lights over and around their home, creating an ostentatious announcement of their daughter's forthcoming marriage. dries overnight.
Here, the bride-to-be receives a traditional henna staining of her hands and feet. This traditional Muslim art form invokes intricately designs to create beautiful symbolic patterns. The bride-to-be is waited on by her family while the henna stain
of her hands and feet. This traditional Muslim art form invokes intricately designs to create beautiful symbolic patterns. The bride-to-be is waited on by her family while the henna stain dries overnight.
Third Day is the Marriage Ceremony
The wedding rites and ceremony in Pakistan take places on the third day. The Pakistani bride and groom who continue their traditions wear garments of red. The bride's gown is very elaborate, as are her veil and jewelry. Men wear a distinctive traditional turban. After wedding vows are exchanged, the Holy Koran is held over the new bride's head as she joins her husband's family. The official paperwork is signed in the presence of an Islamic priest and the guests.
Fourth and Final Day of Wedding Program in Pakistan
On the fourth day, the couple hosts their first dinner as husband and wife. The groom's family invites all .
Persian Wedding Traditions!
An Iranian wedding custom began when the country was still called Persia.
The groom would purchase the ceremonial wedding dress for his bride-to-be. This gown consisted of ten feet of sheeting that he would wrap around his intended wife.
During wedding ceremony, it is an Iranian custom for a happily married woman to hold a translucent shawl over the couple's heads.
After the newlyweds have exchanged their wedding vows, crumbs from two decorated sugar cones are shaved over their heads for good luck.
Indonesian Wedding Traditions!
An Indonesian engagement could easily last for many years. During this time, ceremonial gift giving takes place between the bride and groom's families to strengthen their familiarity.
Indonesian Wedding Ceremony
An Indonesian wedding program is a very important event. Everyone that is even slightly acquainted with the bride and groom may be invited, and this could mean thousands of guests.
The majority of invited guests do not attend the actual ceremony, but it is considered rude to be invited to the wedding reception, to share in the joy of the newlyweds, and to not attend.
Wedding Reception Celebration
There is often an elaborate processional into the reception site, which consists of a long chain of flowers. Professional dancers perform traditional Indonesian dances, while family and guests await the arrival of the newlyweds.
It is customary for the traditional Indonesian bride and groom to greet each guest in a long receiving line, before the reception festivities can begin.
Turkish Wedding Traditions!
The newlywed bride may return home the morning after her wedding vows to see her family and friends, who then might perform a henna ritual on her.
A Muslim wedding program in Turkey lasts from four to seven days, starting with separate celebrations of the bride and groom's families.
From this day on, the couple getting married cannot see each other until their wedding ceremony.
A Turkish bride might wear a beautifully embroidered silk wedding dress with a red velvet cape.
Chinese Wedding Traditions!
Red is central to the wedding theme of China. It signifies love, joy and prosperity and is used in a variety of ways in Chinese wedding traditions. The bride's wedding down is often red, as are the wedding invitations, and wedding gift boxes or envelopes for cash gifts. Even the bride and groom's homes are decorated in red on the wedding day.
Before the Chinese Wedding Day
Before her wedding celebration, a Chinese bride traditionally goes into seclusion with her closest friends. This Chinese custom gives the bride-to-be some time to symbolically mourn the loss of her friends and family.
Some time before the couple are married, the groom's family carries wedding gifts in red baskets and boxes to the bride's house. One of the baskets will contain "uang susu" or 'milk money'. Others will contain personal things for the bride, so that on her wedding day all of her personal belongings will be in the groom's house. The bride takes the gifts to another room where they are sorted through.
Three days before the wedding day, women from the bride's family reciprocate, bearing gifts -- including some 'returns'-- in red wrappings to the groom's family.
The Day of the Wedding Ceremony
Wedding anniversaries in China, are carefully chosen according to astrological signs. It is also customary for couples to be married on the half-hour or their wedding day rather than at the top of the hour. In this way, the couple begins their new lives together on an 'upswing', while the hands of the clock are moving up, rather than down.
On the morning of his wedding day, the groom is symbolically dressed by his parents. The groom arrives at the house of his bride on the way to the wedding chapel. He brings gifts of cash, wrapped in red tissue, to give to his bride's friends, in exchange for 'letting her go'. In some families, the wedding couple serves tea to both sets of parents while kneeling in front of them. a symbolic gesture of asking for permission. The bride and groom then leave for the wedding site together.
Chinese Marriage Ceremony and Wedding Reception
The wedding ceremony is usually attended only by the couples' immediate families. Just after the ceremony and before the wedding reception, the bride who honors tradition will serve tea to her in-laws in a formal ceremony. The couple will usually go to a professional studio for wedding pictures before they proceed to their reception. The wedding reception, an elaborate standing only affair.
A welcoming speech is usually performed by an MC who is hired for the occasion. The speech is followed by a cake cutting ceremony. The traditional wedding cake is immense, with many layers. The layers symbolize a ladder that they couple will 'climb to success', so couples will cut the cake from the bottom and work their way up. The cutting of the cake is the only event of the reception. The bride and groom feed each other a piece of cake with arms entwined, trying not to destroy the bride's elaborate makeup. A piece is then cut for each of the parents and for the grandparents, who are fed by the bride and groom holding the cake together. Sometimes a wedding toast is given and guests are invited to greet the newlyweds and their parents. Musical entertainment, which ranges from a simple keyboard player to a symphony or orchestra, accompanies the receiving line It is customary for guests to shake hands again before leaving the reception. At more elaborate Chinese weddings, a sit-down reception may feature a 9 or 10 course meal as well as musical entertainment.
Chinese brides often change outfits at least three times during the reception.
Unique Wedding Traditions Around The World
If there is one thing that is universal, it has to be love. But the way that people express their love is as diverse as the polars. Every culture has its own unique way of going about wedding ceremonies. From the bizarre to the nobly, wedding traditions are a whole subject of study and admiration. Below are some of the most unique wedding traditions from around the world.
Africa
Probably the most unique aspect African wedding tradition is the payment of dowry. A groom has to bring to the bride's father a specified number of domestic animals like cattle, goat, camels, etc for him to get the permission to marry the daughter. In other parts of Africa a marriage can be arranged before the bride or even groom is born.
Asia
In this expansive continent, traditions are so much diverse littered with ancient traditions. But one of the most poignant is the Chinese one where the bridal gown is screaming red, and a gift of a whole roast pig has to be given to the bride's father beforehand.
One of the most unique things about weddings in Latvia and Lithuania is that the wedding has to be published in the church bulletin for up to six months beforehand. And then the bride has to spend at least a week with the groom's mother to be evaluated whether she is a fitting wife for the son.
In Germany, there is a tradition where the night before the wedding, friends, guests and relatives bring and break old dishes in front of the couple's house as it is held that the broken dishes will forever bring luck to the union.
Believe it or not, a good number of wedding traditions in common practice today are borrowed from Europe. There is a European tradition and belief that the bride should not step on the threshold of the couple's new home, as that would bring bad luck to the marriage. Thus the groom has to carry the bride over the threshold when entering the house for the first time.
In Mexico, the bride and groom during the ceremony have to be draped together in a special ribbon known as the lasso to signify their unity as a single matrimonial unit. And tradition has it that the groom has to give thirteen gold coins to show his ability to take care of his bride.
In Peru, between the wedding cake layers is a wedding charm attached to a ribbon. Single women are then called upon to pull the strings and then one who pulls the one attached to the charm has the luck to be married within year.
In Puerto Rico, the presiding priest blesses a plateful of coins and gives them to the husband to be. Afterwards, the new husband presents the same to his new wife as a sign of luck and lack of want in that marriage.
There are very many other unique traditions from around the world that serve to bring out the esteem and the high regard in which the marriage custom is held. Whichever way you do it, let it be from the heart and of course true love.
Mairrage Traditions Around the World
Traditions are simply memories of the past, still taking root in our lives today. As you read through these long cherished practices of ages gone by, choose for yourself those that will make your day more meaningful and special.
AFRICA: Holding hands at the alter and the walk back up the aisle after your ceremony may well be a custom derived from the tradition still performed in some tribes today of binding the bride and groom’s wrists together with plaited grass.
BELGIUM: A lovely tradition has long been practiced in Belgium to make and embroider a handkerchief for the bride to carry during her wedding. The brides name would also be embroidered on it. Following the wedding, she would them frame the handkerchief and hang it on the wall until the next wedding in the family, at which time it was to be taken down and the new bride’s name embroidered on it as well. This was handed down from generation to generation.
BERMUDA: An old custom which is certainly catching on today as we look forward to the new millennium is that of planting a tree to memorialize the wedding day. Even yet today, some Islanders top off their wedding cake with a small tree sapling. The tree is planted during the reception which is often held at the home of one of their parents, if not the new home they will share together as man wife.
CHINA: Red is the color of “Love and Joy” in China. At one time it was the brides favorite color of choice for the wedding garment, candles, guest gift favors and everything that went along with her wedding. In China today, many girls still choose to go by the old traditions of their forefathers, but more and more, the country is becoming westernized and brides are opting for the exquisite white gowns worn throughout the world. An interesting point of interest may be the number of wedding gowns made in China today, finding their way to your favorite bridal shop. Almost without a doubt as you have shopped for your gown, you have either tried on or looked upon gowns made on mainland China.
CZECHOSLOVAKIA: Rosemary wreaths, handmade by the mother or grandmother of the bride is a century old tradition for brides in the countryside. A variation of this today is seen as wreaths of baby’s breath and miniature roses, worn as often by the attendants as the bride herself.
ENGLAND: The familiar tradition of a flower girl throwing rose petals as she passes down the aisle before the bride is a reminder of days gone by when the bride walked to the church with her maids in waiting. Leading the procession was always a young girl throwing flower petals along the lane, so the bride’s path through life would be happy and laden with flowers.
FINLAND: In Finland, brides once wore crowns of gold. Following the wedding and during the reception, the tradition known as the “Dance of the Crowns” took place. The bride would be blindfolded, while her unmarried maids would dance around her in a circle. She would remove her crown and place it on a maiden, and whoever she crowned was said to be the next to marry. This custom could be easily be reborn by the bride who wears a wreath rather than a veil, and she too could dance the “Dance of Crowns”.
FRANCE: A lovely custom coming to us out of France comes in the form of a two handled cup called the “coup de marriage”. The cup was saved to be used from one generation to another. Of course, the custom has long been established of drinking a toast to one another, but the two handled cup adds a special touch to the weddings of today. Until recently, these cups have been very difficult to find. Drinking from the same cup denotes “togetherness”.
GERMANY: The tradition coming to us out of Germany includes the bride and groom holding candles trimmed with flowers and ribbons. This beautiful old tradition could be included in a wedding of today, with the couple placing candles they have carried to the alter beside their unity candle. These candles could then be used to light the unity candle at the end of the ceremony.
HOLLAND: A canopy of fragrant evergreens meaning “everlasting love” was where the bride and groom would sit following their ceremony to receive best wishes and gifts from their friends.
INDIA: Flowers have always played a very important part in the Indian wedding. A lasting tradition passed along from generation to generation is that of the brother of the groom sprinkling flower petals over the heads of the couple following the wedding vows and at the end of the ceremony.
IRAN: When this country was called Persia, back in the Bible times, the groom would purchase ten yards of sheeting fabric and wrap it around and around his bride. Just think how fun it must have been to unwrap her :). Today, of course, the fashionable Iranian bride wears the traditional wedding gown fashioned in Paris or other European countries.
IRELAND: For a touch of tradition from the lovely green isle, you might well want to consider their traditional wedding cake, which is a far cry from the sugary delight we call a “wedding cake”. Theirs is the true fruit cake well laced with raisins, almonds, cherries, and spice. In the true Irish spirit the recipe is laden with brandy or bourbon.
ITALY: Sugared almonds have for centuries been tossed by guests at the Italian wedding. This is called “confetti”. Today, sugared almonds are a popular favor found bound in netting and tied with matching ribbon as a treat to your wedding guests.
JAPAN: The bridal couple in Japan takes nine sips of sake, becoming husband and wife after the first sip. They will set across the table from each other, looking directly into the eyes of the other, each taking a sip at the same moment, being very careful to set the cup down on the table at the same exact moment. The purpose of this is to keep one from dying before the other. The tradition being, that whoever’s cup is set on the table last will be the first to die.
MEXICO: The guests at a Mexican wedding have a lovely old custom of forming a circle around the couple in the shape of a heart. The newlyweds will then dance their first dance together within this circle of love.
POLAND: The custom of pinning money to the gown of the bride is centuries old in Poland. It was once done to help the young couple set up housekeeping and gave them money to begin their new life together. Today, it is more popularly known as the “money dance” and money may be pinned on both the bride and groom in payment for dancing with them.
ROMANIA: Rather than throwing rice at the couple making their get away in Romania, the guests would throw sweets and nuts at the couple as they made their exit. A far cry from the oft thrown bird seed of today.
RUSSIA: Wedding guests received small thank you gifts when attending the traditional Russian wedding of days gone by. Popular items included small pictures, bud vases or other tiny items. These were in appreciation of their presence and well wishing.
SPAIN: Long ago, in certain regions of Spain, the bride wore a black silk dress and mantilla. Orange blossoms in her hair was the flower of the day. The groom wore a tucked shirt which had been hand embroidered by the bride.
SWEDEN: Imaginary trolls, once thought to bring misfortune to the young couple, were kept away by the bride, as well as her bridesmaids, carrying bouquets of pungent herbs and stinking weeds. Today, those stinking herbs and weeds have been replaced by the lovely bouquets carried on the arms of brides throughout the world.
SWITZERLAND: Following the ceremony, a junior bridesmaid would lead the procession to the reception by passing our colored handkerchiefs to the guests along the way. Each guest would then in turn give a coin to the bridesmaid for the starting up of the new home.
Monday, September 14, 2009
Muslim Mairrages Cultures
Muslim Culture
The cultures and traditions of Muslim vary throughout the world. At the same time Muslims throughout the world share the same essential beliefs, values, and God-centered approach to the world. All Muslims look to the Qur'an and the lifestyle and traditions of Prophet Muhammad for guidance in their daily affairs.Traditionally in Muslim Culture, it was the family who used to search a suitable match for their children. But the westernization of Muslim Religion can be observed as they come in search of their partners over the internet.
In Muslim Culture, Marriage is considered as an religious duty and represents the Muslim beliefs and customs. The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) has even said that when a Muslim marries, he has fulfilled half of the religious devotion and duties and then he should take care of other half by being God-minded and aware of his obligations.
Some of the important rules which must be followed in order to conlcude a Marriage according to the verses of the Holy Quran consists of :
- No marriage contract is valid without a wali.
- Both offer and acceptance must be explicit in mentioning the word marriage (or any other word in any language implying a similar situation). Both statements should be made at the same sitting, i.e. one party to the other.
- The consent of both Muslim man and Muslim woman is necessary condition for the marriage without which the marriage is not valid.
- At least two Muslim male witnesses are required or one male and two females.
- The Sadaq or Mahr (dower) is a required marriage gift given by the groom to the bride. It represents his commitment to take care of all the family expenses including her personal needs.
- The Marriage should be publically announced.
Uzbekistan
Samarkand, Bukhara, Khiva, and
Shakhrizabs, where cultural and spiritual values had been long since
concentrated, outstanding scientific centers and schools were
established, architecture, craftsmanship, and applied art were
flourishing, played the role of main urban centres. Creative work and
various scientific achievements of the local scientists, thinkers, and
poets have proved to be a valuable contribution to the development of
the world civilization. Abu Ali ibn Sino, al-Khorezmiy, Mirzo Ulugbek,
Bakhouddin Nakshband, al-Bukhoriy, at-Termeziy, Abu Raikhon Beruniy,
Alisher Navoiy - this is but a short list of names of prominent figures
of Uzbekistan.
Uzbekistan, where monuments of
ancient cultures of different ages are concentrated, is rightly called
a treasury of history. Ichan-Kala complex in Khiva, historical centers
of Bukhara, Shakhrizabs and Samarkand are included in the UNESCO World
Heritage list. Many unique monuments and architectural constructions in
these towns have remained in a good state up to the present day and are
of a great significance to the mankind.
The monuments of Samarkand are
majestic and wonderful. In this town one can feel the breath of history
itself. It can be traced in the ancient ruins as well as in the
medrassahs, mausoleums, and minarets, which have been decorating the
city until now. In 1370 Amir Timur (Tamerlan) designated Samarkand as
the capital of his great state that spread from Mongolia and Siberia to
Syria and India. From his campaigns he brought many skillful architects
and craftsmen whose works of art have outlasted the ages. The legendary
Samarkand square of Registan has up to now been considered to be one of
the main architectural sights of Central Asia.
Since old times Bukhara was the
center of a densely populated oasis. Archeologists noted that the city
was constantly growing, both in width and in height. Ruins of
dwellings, public buildings, defense structures dating back to
different periods of the city's history were found in the earth stratum
at the depth of 20 meters. There are more than 140 monuments of ancient
architecture in Bukhara altogether. Minaret Kalyan, the striking symbol
of the city, towers over it. Everyone who has seen "Great Minaret"
built in 1127 will long keep in memory the impression of its greatness
and original beauty.
Having once visited Bukhara, you will
long stay under impression both of Ark fortress and many other
monuments of antiquity, which surround you almost everywhere.
Craftsmen-chasers will reproduce ancient patterns on copper and silver
right before your eyes, jewellers will make replicas of unique
adornments, which the beauties used to wear thousands of years ago.
Involuntarily you ask yourself: how many centuries has this town
numbered? How many pieces of the past material cultures are buried in
it?
Khiva is the only town of the period of
the Great Silk Road, which has remained fully undamaged till now. Time
seems to go centuries back here. That is why the town has rightly
gained fame of "the museum in the open". In Khiva with its narrow
alleys where legends of old times seem to have been reflected in stone
and wood, you can easily imagine the life of former generations which
will not repeat itself but has left us old traditions, legends, and
precepts.
Most of architectural monuments of
Ichan-Kala complex in Khiva date back to the late 18th - first half of
the 19th centuries. But the excavations on its territory revealed much
more ancient layers dating back to the 3rd and even earlier centuries
B.C. Ichan-Kala is surrounded by a thick wall which is 2100 meters long
and has several gates. The silhouette of the huge Islam-Khodzha minaret
stands out over the town.
Shakhrizyabs is the birthplace of
Amir Temur where everything, one way or another, is connected with his
name. Having established the Movarrounnakhr empire, having become an
absolute ruler - emir, Timur designatied Samarkand as his capital. But
he always remembered and took care of his hometown. In fact,
Shakhrizabs was the second capital of the empire. Many beautiful
constructions appeared here in the times the Timurids. Best architects,
construction workers, masters of architectural decoration were sent
here by the emir's orders. Alongside with the local masters they built
majestic constructions thus realizing the experience and traditions of
different countries.
Ancient monuments on the territory of the
present-day Uzbeksitan are put on the list of the values of the world
civilization. These monuments situated along the Great Silk Road
traditionally attract attention of the general public: both specialists
who study the Orient and international relations of the ancient world
and ordinary people who seek after knowledge of the unknown world.
Tashkent, the capital of the present-day
Uzbekistan, is one of the biggest cities of Central Asia and is called
"Star of the Orient" and "Messenger of Peace". These names amazingly
reflect the very essence of the city, which for more than 20 centuries
has been symbolically illuminating with the light of peace and kindness
the lives of both its inhabitants and the road for travelers.
Tashkent is rich in archeological
monuments. None of Central Asian towns has been studied so thoroughly
by scientists as the capital of Uzbekistan. Only ten years ago there
were 39 known archeological monuments on the territory of the city,
whereas today there have been excavated more than 240 monuments. In the
past Tashkent had different names: Yuni, Chach, Shash, Binkent. Its
present name was first introduced in the 11th century works by Beruniy
and Makhmud Kashgariy.
The architectural look of old
Tashkent has been developing for centuries, both under the influence of
many-sided Oriental culture and due to natural factors. The urge for
the ways to protection from hot climate and earthquakes gave rise to
peculiar know-hows in construction. There appeared interesting types of
dwellings with covered yards, sliding shutters "keshgarcha".
Residential areas with a maze of narrow alleys formed the environment
for standing out mosques, madrassahs, and mazars (cemeteries).
Today Tashkent is a large industrial
center with about 300 companies producing almost everything which
contemporary person needs: from aircraft and tractors to TV sets and
toys for children. Here the images of old times join the modern
skyscrapers made of glass and metal, multilevel overbridges, parks,
museums, fountains. Tashkent is rapidly becoming a modern developed
international megapolis.
Many-sidedness of the history of
Uzbekistan is brightly reflected in its geographical location. Termez,
located in the very south of the country can serve a good example of
this. It came into being at the end of 19th century and had the
appearance of a typical semi- Asian semi-European town. It was a
one-storied town, with public buildings made of baked bricks and
dwellings made of adobe, with flat roofs in Oriental style and windows
facing the street in Western mode, in greenery of gardens, with
customary acacias, elms and planes along the pavements. Today Termez is
a modern town, the center of Surkhandarya Viloyat (Province).
Many years of scientific study have
revealed that this peaceful and quiet town has a long and eventful
history. It was in Surkhandarya region that the most famous Central
Asian sites of primitive man were found. The territory of Surkhandarya
region was a part of many states: the empire of Alexander the Great,
Bactria, the empire of Chenghiz-Khan and Amir Temur, sharing with each
its fate. Archeologists use to find the unique traces of their might
and power. Founded on the right bank of the Jeyhun River (the Amudrya
River) at a convenient crossing place, at a crossroads of caravan
routes of the Great Silk Road, 5 km north-west from the present-day
Termez, Old Termez had in centuries time become one of the leading
towns. Later it was destroyed by hostile raids and internal wars.
The name "Pearl of Central Asia" has
been positively attributed to rich and picturesque Fergana Valley,
which always played a significant role in the history and culture of
Central Asia. Fergana Valley is truly a unique part of the Orient. In
ancient times the valley was the center of various civilizations, which
is proved by evidence of antic settlements and monuments of the Middle
Ages.
Today Fergana Valley is the most
flourishing region of the country. The astonishing nature enchants with
a variety of colors. The Sirdarya River, formed by the Karadarya and
the Naryn River, flows along the northern border of the valley. These
rivers feed main canals: the Big Canal, the Northern Canal and Southern
Canal, which appeared on the map of the region as a result of national
construction projects of the 20th century.
Fergana Valley, the big and flourishing
oasis with the most fertile land in Central Asia, where the towns of
Fergana, Kokand, Andizhan, Namangan are situated, is rightly called
"Golden Valley".
Uzbekistan comprises an autonomous
republic Karakalpakstan most part of which is the territory of the
Kizyl-Kum desert, plateau Usturt, the delta of the Amudarya River and
the southern part of the Aral Sea. The most ancient settlements here
date back to the Stone Age.
The Karakalpaks belong to the Central
Asian ethnic groups with bold Mongoloid features. Earlier they led
semi-nomadic life, practiced agriculture, cattle breeding and fishing.
For the most part they lived in yurtas (nomadic temporary houses). In
spite of the fact that today the native customs are being kept only by
the old generation, the signs of ancient traditions can be traced in
the house interiors, clothing, food, peculiar applied art.
Nukus, the capital of Karakalpakstan, is
a beautiful modern town, the center of economic and cultural life of
the republic. Everyone who is visiting Nukus should certainly see
Karakalpakistan State Museum of Art named after its founder, the famous
artist Igor Savitskiy. The museum displays not only works of painters
but also a wide variety of local artifacts found in the region, which
attest to continuity of cultures.
Karakalpakistan truly proves to be a
vivid example of times correlation. Beautiful and tempting, promising
surprising meetings and discoveries, it is ready to impart its
mysteries and share its legends.
Uzbeksitan today is the country where
thousands-old antiquity exists in harmony with modern civilization.
Harmonious correlation of times is seen everywhere. Ancient monuments,
Old Town houses made of adobe bricks stand next to many-storied sky
scraping buildings constructed in accordance with the unique designs
worked out by architects of the 20th century. The traditions of the
people are being carefully preserved.
Arts and crafts have been developing here
throughout the centuries; their secrets have been passed from
generation to generation as great treasure. The unique works of unknown
masters strike you dumb by the flight of fancy. In the present-day
Uzbekistan traditional cultural values are being treated with great
care, the state supports revival of the arts and crafts, contributing
to their further development. Uzbek ceramics, embossing, wood carving,
golden embroidery, carpets, varnished miniature, jewelry are well known
far outside our country.
Non-material heritage is not less
unique and has been acknowledged by UNESCO. For example, the folklore
singing of Baysun district, Surkhandarya Province, Uzbekistan, is
included as a cultural object in UNESCO list to be protected by the
international community. Melodiousness and oriental rhythms of ritual
songs and musical compositions sung and played in other regions of the
country are amazing too.
The institution of family remains
firm in Uzbekistan. It is considered one of the most important values
of life. Uzbekistan is notable for the world's lowest divorce rate. As
a rule, Uzbek families have many children, especially in the rural
areas, where women are mostly housewives. They combine housework with
arts and crafts such as hand-spinning, embroidery, carpet weaving.
Their works are common in any local house, which Uzbek women usually
decorate with great love. The settled way of life made people look
after their houses very carefully. Inner yards and even the streets
next to houses are kept very clean.
Nowadays, along with the clothing of
European style the Uzbeks wear national clothing, especially on
holidays. Men usually wear striped quilted robe, belted with a
beautiful sash, and a skullcap to cover their heads. Women wear loose
bright dresses made of traditional fabrics: khan-atlas, bekasam, kalami.
The dishes of National Uzbek cuisine are
notable not only for their practicability but for certain skills
required for their cooking. Unique Uzbek pilaf, aromatic transparent
shurpa (soup), juicy manti made of dough bags and meat, shashlyk with
its smack of smoke and spices are famous all over the world. It would
be unthinkable to have a dastarkhan (table-cloth) without greens,
vegetables, fruit, sun-fed melons and bunches of grapes. Melting on the
tongue sweets, nuts and almonds cooked by grandmother's recipes
complement the dastarkhan. Green tea is a favorite drink of the Uzbeks.
It quenches thirst on a sultry day.
Uzbekistan is truly an amazing land
with original national culture where the heritage of ancient times is
being carefully preserved and a society with modern economy and
developed science and art is being simultaneously built.
In the present-day Uzbekistan a lot is
being done so as to restore the unique monuments - witnesses of the
country's past; owing to these programmes of restoration and
preservation work many of these monuments have been given second birth.
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Islamic Wedding Traditions
Among Muslims, it is the family of the Groom who searches for a suitable Bride.
There are many ceremonies which comprise the marriage process.
The Mangni
The Mangni or engagement ceremony is an exchange of rings. The outfit for the Bride is provided by the Groom's family.
The Manjha Ceremony
The Manjha ceremony is where the Bride is anointed with turmeric paste. This takes place at the Bride's house one or two days before the wedding day. The paste of turmeric, sandalwood and chameli oil are provided by the Groom's family.
Only unmarried women apply this to the bride to be. Henna is applied on her hands and feet. A symbolic token in the form of a spot is also applied to the groom. After this ceremony, the Bride does not leave her house until the wedding. On her wedding day, she is provided her clothing by the Groom's family.
The Groom's Procession
On the wedding day, a procession of friends and relatives accompany the groom from his place to the wedding venue. This is done whether the groom rides on a horse or in a car.
If no concrete covered area is available, a shamiana (large decorated tent) is erected.
The Arrival of the Groom and Guests
The arrival of the groom is accompanied by the beating of drums and playing of musical instruments.
On this arrival, the groom and the brother of the bride exchange a glass of sharbet (a sweetened drink) and money. The sisters of the bride welcome the guests by playfully hitting them with a stick wrapped around flowers.
The Wedding Ceremony
For some Muslim ceremonies, particularly those rooted in Islam more traditionally found in South-Asia, the men and women are seated in separate rooms or have a curtain to separate them. This is not the case for all Muslim ceremonies though. The meher, (a compulsory amount of money given to the bride's family by the groom's family) is decided upon by elders of both families.
Before reading a selected piece from the Koran (the holy book of the Muslims), witnessed by two male persons and a lawyer or eminent person, the officiating priest will ask the bride if she is happy with the arrangement and whether she agrees to marry the groom. The boy is asked the same.
The marriage is registered (nikaahnama). It is first signed by the groom and then two witnesses. The bride will sign later. The groom is then taken to the women's section. He gives money and gifts to the sisters of the bride. He receives the blessings of the elder woman and offers his salutations. Dinner is served separately to the women and men. The groom's family feasts separately.
After their first meal, the groom and bride are seated together and a long scarf is used to cover their heads while the priest makes them read prayers. The Holy Koran is kept between them and they are allowed to see each other through reflection by mirrors. Dried dates and a sweet dish are served to the guests. The dates have religious significance.
The groom spends the night in a separate room at the girl's house with a younger brother. In the morning he is given clothes, money and gifts by the bride's parents. That afternoon his relatives come to accompany the bridal couple to their home.
The Rukhsat Ceremony
The farewell by the father of the bride is performed by the father giving her hand to her husband and asking him to protect her always. Final farewells are offered and the couple leaves.
Another tradition from the Muslims of South Asia is that when the bride enters her new home, her mother-in-law holds the Koran over her and the groom follows. It is believed this may have its roots in the Hindu faith. Four days after the wedding she is taken back to her parent's place. The wedding reception is held when the husband brings his wife and her family back to a reception hosted by his family. It is then that the two families become one.
Gifts
Gifts are exchanged between the bride's family and the groom's family before and after the wedding.
Wedding Attire
Throughout the Muslim world, a cherry red shade is chosen for bridal robes.The following descriptions are very typical of those worn in South Asia, and by those who practice the Islam of this region.Covering the head during a wedding is a mark of respect. The ghunghat, which is equivalent to the veil of the Christian bride, is worn by the bride. It may vary in length, covering not only the head but the shoulders, back and almost down to the waistline.
The draping may be done is several ways. The chunri, worn with a ghaghra choli, is tucked in at the waist on one end, pleated beautifully around the body and draped delicately over one shoulder. An odhnis is usually made of silk with a tie dye pattern. The center of the veil is used as a head covering the ends taken carefully under the arms and tucked inside the neck of the abho or chorio (the upper garment).
The groom may sport a safa with its flowing tail-end. Others may wear a nattily wound pagdi, or a topi. White flowers can be tied in suspended strings over the forehead, called sehra.
In northern, central and western India, a golden kalgi studded with precious stones is tied over the right side of the groom's safa. In the center of the forehead sandalwood is applied and further decorated with gold, red and white dots. This decoration may also be done over the eyebrows.
The groom may wear a white silk brocade suit, sword and turban as his wedding outfit
Pakistani Wedding Customs
A Pakistani wedding, like others is a ceremony to celebrate the wedlock of a bride and a groom. It brings closer the families of a bride and a groom. A wedding ceremony has great importance in different cultures of the world. Different cultures have different ways of wedding celebrations and have different wedding traditions.
Pakistan, an Islamic country located in South Asia and the Greater Middle East, has a great culture with rich customs. A Pakistani wedding is a great feast of fun, merriments, and celebrations. It is celebrated with great fervor. A Pakistani wedding is followed by several pre-wedding customs and rituals.
Mangni is the engagement ceremony that marks the formal engagement of couple. The small ceremony takes place in the presence of a few important members of would-be bride & groom’s family. Prayer and blessings for the couple are recited and the wedding date is decided in Mangni.
Mayun is custom of the bride entering into the state of seclusion eight to fifteen days before the wedding. She’s made free of all the chores and errands around the house. The bride and groom are not allowed to see each other after the Mayun; bride is not allowed to leave her house. The beautification rituals begin during this time.
Uptan is a paste made from turmeric, sandalwood powder, herbs and aromatic oils, which groom's mother brings for bride. She blesses bride and applies “uptan’ to the bride's hands and face. Groom's sister also does the same, and a thick string called a “gana” is tied to the bride’s arm. “Uptan” is applied to the bride's skin each day leading up to the wedding. Similar ceremony is held for the groom, where bride's mother, sisters, cousins and friends bring “uptan” for groom and rub it on his skin.
Dolki is a popular ceremony of singing traditional wedding & popular songs accompanied by two or three percussion instruments Dolki being the main. The girl is officially treated as bride (dulhan). She wears traditional Pakistani yellow outfit. Her brothers, sisters, and cousins bring her (bride) in the dholki party.
Rasm E Mehndi (Henna Party) takes place a day before the wedding. It’s a ceremony mainly of women. They apply Mehndi (Henna) to the bride's hands and feet, sing, dance, and bless the bride. Sadka (warding off evil) is performed on the bride i.e. donating money circling three times on the bride’s head. Traditionally mehndi was brought by groom's parents. Mehndi (Henna) is applied in beautiful floral designs and sometimes groom's name is written in designs. After the ceremony dinner is organized for the guests. Traditionally, the bride is not allowed to take part in the celebrations and keeps her face hidden in veil. Rasm E Mehndi is organized for grooms also in some parts of Pakistan.
Baraat is procession of family, relatives, and friends of groom that accompany the groom to bride’s home for official wedding ceremony. Groom makes his way to the bride's home on a richly decked horse or in a car and “baraat” follows in different vehicles. Groom is given warm welcome by the bride’s family with flower garlands and rose petals. Family and relatives of the groom and the bride exchange glasses of juice or sherbet along with money. Guests are welcomed by the bride’s sisters by playfully hitting them with a stick wrapped and decorated with flowers.
Nikah is purely Islamic official wedding ceremony that usually takes place at the bride’s home. Nikah is attended by close family members, relatives, and friends of groom and bride. Usually, the men and women are made to sit separately, in different rooms, or have a purdah, or curtain, separating them.
Nikah-naama (document of marriage contract) is registered in Nikah. The Nikahnaama contains several terms and conditions that are to be respected by both parties (bride & groom). It includes bride’s right to divorce her husband. Nikahnaama specifies “Meher,” the monetary amount the groom will give the bride. Meher includes two amounts; one that is due before the marriage is consummated and the other that is a deferred amount given to the bride at a time to be determined. The Meher guarantees the bride's freedom within the marriage, and acts as the bride's safety net.
The fathers of groom and bride (Walis) act as witnesses to the wedding. If father is not available, the senior male, brother or uncle performs the ceremony. Islamic Imam (called maulana or maulvi in Urdu) reads selected verses from the Quran and waits for the Ijab-e-Qubul (proposal and acceptance) of wedding. Usually, the groom's side makes proposal and the bride's side conveys her assent. Maulvi and witnesses (gavah) take the Nikahnaama to the bride and read it aloud to her. She accepts the Nikahnaama saying 'qabool kiya,' meaning 'I accept and signs it. The Nikahnaama is then taken to the groom and read aloud to him. He accepts saying 'qabool kiya and signs the document. The Maulvi and witnesses (gavah) also do sign the Nikahnaama contract and the wedding becomes legal. The Maulvi recites the Fatihah, the first chapter of the Quran, and various durud, or blessings to mark the closing of Nikah ceremony.
After the wedding is legally announced, dishes of dates and misri (unrefined sugar) are served to the groom's family. Groom is then escorted to his bride where he’s allowed to site beside his wife. This is the time when sisters-in-law of groom play pranks and tease the groom.
Mooh Dikhai is the ceremony of first time “showing of the face” after the Nikah. The couple is made to see each other in the mirror and the bride unveils her face that she keeps hidden during the Nikah. The custom of Mooh Dikhai is also called “Aarsi Musshaf.” The bride and groom share a piece of sweet fruit, such as a date and family and friends congratulate the couple and offer gifts. Dinner is served to the guests. The sisters, friends, and female cousins of bride take this opportunity to steal the groom's shoes and demand a sum of money for shoes. This is very popular custom and groom usually carries a lot of cash, due to the popularity of this custom. He pays money to get back his shoes and girls divide the money among themselves.
Ruksati is the ceremony to bid farewell to the bride before her departure to the groom's house. She says goodbye to her parents, close friends and family. The Quran is held over her head as a blessing. It’s a pretty touching moment. Although this practice is un-Islamic but a lot of Pakistani families have come to adopt it.
Several traditional games are played at groom’s house. A tray full of a mixture of water and milk is placed before the couple and a ring is thrown into the mixture and husband and wife are asked to find the ring. The one who finds the ring is considered winner and dominant partner in the relationship. The couple is asked to untie the “ganas” (thick strings) that were tied on their writs before wedding. The one who unties it first is considered the dominant partner in the relationship. Bride eats kheer (sweet, pudding-type desert) out of the groom’s hand. This customs are designed to make the couple more intimate before the physical relationship. Groom washes the feet of the bride in a basin of water that is sprinkled into the four corners of the house. It’s believed that this brings wealth, prosperity and luck into the home.
Chauthi is the custom of bringing the bride back to her parents' home the next day, or on the fourth day after the wedding (depending on family tradition). Usually bride's brothers perform the Chauthi and goes to fetch their sister home.
Walima is ceremony to announce the wedding to community and friends. It’s a grand reception hosted by the groom's parents. Relatives, friends and community people are invited to the reception and wedding is celebrated with great fun and festivities.
The United Arab Emirates (UAE)
As a tradition in the UAE, the setting of the wedding date marks the beginning of the bride's preparation for her wedding.
Although the groom is also put through a series of preparations, the bride's are more elaborate and time consuming.
She is lavished with all sorts of traditional oils and perfumes from head to toe. Traditionally, she is not seen for forty days by anyone except for family members as she rests at home in preparation for her wedding day.
During the week which precedes the wedding, traditional music, continuous singing and dancing take place, reflecting the joy shared by the bride and the groom's families.
Laylat Al Henna (literally, the night of the henna), which takes place a few days before, is very special night for the bride, since it is a ladies' night only.
On this night, the bride's hands and feet are decorated with henna. The back-to-back feasts and celebrations involve both men and women who usually celebrate separately.Wedding Traditions Of Egypt
Egypt has been exposed to many civilizations, such as the Greek, Roman and Islamic ones. The marriage customs of Egyptians make it easy for a couple to get to know one another, for the families meet often.
It starts by the suitor's parents visiting his fiancee's house to get her family approval to complete the marriage and reaching an agreement, which contains two main items: an amount of money, called Mahr, paid by the suitor to his fiancee's family to help them prepare the furniture of their daughter and a valuable jewelry gift, called Shabka, given by the suitor to his fiancee. The value of this gift depends on the financial and social levels of the suitor's family.
When the two parties complete the agreement, they fix an appointed date for the engagement party.
When the house of the new family becomes ready, the two families fix a date for the wedding party.
The night before wedding day, the relatives, friends and neighbors get together to celebrate "the Henna Night".
The next day, the marriage contract is signed and registered. After sunset, the wedding party starts and the couple wears their best dresses and jewelry.
Malaysian Wedding Traditions
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| In the Malaysian tradition, the bride and groom are treated as "king and queen for a day".
The berinai (henna application) ceremony is held prior to the wedding. The bride's palms and feet are 'decorated' with the dye from the henna leaves. Akad Nikah, which is the signing of the contract, is normally presided over by a Kadhi, a religious official of the Syariat (Shariat) Court. A small sum of money called the Mas Kahwin seals the contract. The recent trend is to hold the solemnization in the mosque as was performed during the Prophet Muhammad's (peace and blessings be upon him) time.
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Wedding Traditions in Indonesia
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| Practitioners of Islam are in the overwhelming majority in Indonesia, but the group of islands in fact includes many different ethnic groups, each of which brings their unique style of ceremony and celebration to the joining of a couple in matrimony. One of the most important parts of the Indonesian wedding is declaring one's religion; the government of the country does not recognize unions that are not made under the auspices of some religion. Islamic marriages are not required to be registered in the Civil Registry, although those between other religions are. Islamic marriages in Indonesia must be presided over by both a government official and a religious officiator. Customary Engagement Etiquette in Indonesia An Indonesian engagement could easily last for many years. During this time, ceremonial gift giving takes place between the bride and groom's families to strengthen their familiarity. The family of a young man will usually decide on a young woman they would prefer their son to marry. Their decision is made known to their son, who will tell his parents how he feels about the choice. Upon his acceptance, the young woman is asked if she has any strong feelings against the union as it has been proposed. If she does not, an intermediate is used to determine if a bride's parents will be receptive to the proposal; if an acceptance is likely, the interceder will propose a marriage to the family of the bride. The formal announcement of the marriage takes place at the Engagement Meeting, with the readings from the Quran and the cleansing ceremony taking place.**********
Sr. Ning from Indonesia and her husband, Philip is from England . They are a married couple from different countries and cultures. Alhamudulillah, by the power of Allah, they seemed destined to meet each other. Their wedding took place August 31, 2001 and the wedding party was held on 2 September, 2001 in Padang, Indonesia. A momentous day and a traditional wedding party with approxiamtely 300 guests. A committed couple united and in love.
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Moroccan Wedding Customs
Morocco, one of the gems of the North Africa, is the country with very rich and active traditions. Like other cultures of the world, a Moroccan wedding is a great gala event. It’s celebrated with great fun and festivity.
A typically traditional Moroccan wedding process can take up to seven days. It begins with several pre-wedding ceremonies that take place before the actual wedding. According to the old Moroccan wedding traditions, parents would choose the bride for their son. The pre-wedding ceremonies include sending gifts and presents to bride. If the parents of groom are pretty affluent, they send opulent golden jewelry, clothing, and perfumes for the bride.
It is important to note that some of the customs followed in Moroccan weddings have no foundation in Islam. However, the Moroccan culture has adopted those ceremonies and traditions from various cultures including the French.
Furnishing Party is an important pre-wedding ceremony that takes place five days before the fixed wedding date. The “Furnishing Party” focuses on preparation of the bride’s new home. The party that is primarily a women's party delivers household belongings such as handmade blanket, mattress, bedding, carpet, frash, Moroccan couch etc., to the couple's new apartment.
In another traditional pre-wedding ceremony, women and female friends of bride have a party where the bride performs a sort of a “milk bath” to "purify" her. Bride’s negaffa or negassa (female attendants) usually supervise the event. The female attendants, who are usually older married woman, female friends and relatives, help to beautify the bride. They help her dress in a richly decorated wedding kaftan (usually white), adorn her with heavy jewelry, and beautify and darken her eyes with kohl.
According to the Moroccan wedding tradition, Henna Party or Beberiska ceremony takes place a night before the wedding. Henna Party is typically for the women of the family, relatives and female friends. Henna artists paint the hands and feet of the bride and her party with Henna. Bride’s hands are painted with intricate designs, which are usually floral and geometrical designs that are meant to ward off evil spirits, bring good luck and increase fertility. The grooms name is often hidden in the henna designs. The party enjoys tea & cookies, dances on Moroccan music and make merry. Later in the party, the older, married women discuss the 'secrets' of marriage with the young virgin bride-to-be. In some ceremonies, the bride is placed behind a curtain to symbolize her change of lifestyle.
On the wedding day, sumptuous delicious food is prepared for the guests. The food is prepared in plenty to cater the unexpected guests. Wedding ceremony takes place in great gaieties and celebrations. In old times, at some point in the evening, the groom accompanied by his family members, relatives, and friends, would move towards the bridal party. They would go singing, beating drums, and dancing. The groom and the bride are then lead to the bridal chamber. According to another Moroccan wedding custom, the bride would circle her new home three times before becoming the keeper of her new hearth.
In the modern times things have changed a lot. In old Moroccan culture parents would choose a bride for a groom, but the things aren’t the same in the recent times. Young people choose their own marriage partners now. Some of these old Moroccan wedding cultures and traditions have either vanished away or exist only in the rural areas.
Modern Moroccan weddings usually take place at night at big villas that are solely rented out for weddings. The men usually wear suits, and the women don their best caftans made out of delicate laces, and often intricately beaded. The ceremony is full of singing, drumming, dancing, and merrymaking.Algerian Wedding Customs
In Algeria, as in all Arab countries, society revolves around religion and religious customs of Islam. Marriage in Algeria is taken very seriously and is considered by most as a sign of maturity. According to the Qur'an, marriage must be based upon love. Algeria's wedding customs amongst those following the Muslim religion are much the same as in other practicing Muslim communities.
Algerian men and women are free to marry whomever they wish as long as the marriage partner is approved by the family. Parents have a more realistic view and can give their children practical guidance in selecting the appropriate marriage mate. Typically a man will express his love for a woman to his mother who will in turn "investigate" the family of the woman as to suitability. If she is approved the family will approached the woman's family to propose the union. A date will be chosen to
Much preparation takes place from the time of engagement. The family will begin purchasing clothing, household goods, wool and gold. This is referred to as shoura. The couple will spend time together getting to know each other well, sharing opinions and preparing a home. In Islamic culture, husbands and wives are to make mutual decisions and have equal claims in the marriage, it is therefore vital that the couple know each other well and recognize the roles they will take on before marriage.
Algerians believe that the more money the spend on the wedding the more proud the family can be. Weeks before the actual wedding women begin gathering at the bride's house to prepare desserts such as makroud and baklava. The wedding meal will include couscous, meat and vegetables, the bigger the meal, the more generous the family is said to be.
Following the party, the bride is driven to the groom's home. Beautifully adorned in an intricate wedding gown, with make-up, excessive jewelery, and henna designs painted on her hands and feet, she is seated on a decorated chair in his house. All the guests dance and join in great reverie as they prepare to say farewell. The groom with then approach his bride and walk they shall walk out, husband and wife, whilst surrounded by cheering family members and friends.
Algerian wedding customs may vary slightly depending how orthodox the family is and if the people follow other religions. Algerian weddings are truly an explosion of emotion and color, perhaps you will be lucky enough to see a wedding procession during your holiday.
ETHIOPIAN WEDDING
Muslim marriage ceremonies in Ethiopia are centered on a display of generosity. Usually after the declaration of engagement, the groom sends a milking cow to the bride's house. The mother collects the milk to make some butter that will be presented to the groom on the wedding night.
Yassin Ahmad Ibrahim, an Ethiopian Muslim, told us about the traditions briefly. After the declaration of the initial approval between the bride and the groom, the engagement is declared in the presence of the tribal leaders and the Sheikhs. The mother of the bride hands the groom buttermilk to drink. This is a sign of her approval and satisfaction with the future husband of her daughter. During the engagement period, the groom comes under the service of the bride's father. He helps him in any type of work that he made need or want to be assisted in.
The mother of the bride stores honey, wheat and many different items for her daughter during the engagement period. On the wedding day, the father of the bride presents cows, sheep, honey, wheat and many other treats, demonstrating to the crowd what he has prepared for his daughter. The notables and the tribal leaders reply to this by showing their acceptance.
Then the bride walks to her house, where food is served. However, the groom eats only from a special dish prepared by the mother of the bride, again as a sign of approval. She also offers buttermilk to him as well as to his closest friends. When she offers the buttermilk, the groom takes it, then hands her coffee seeds. He also gives an amount of money to the cousin and the aunt of the bride. Towards the end of the ceremony, guests line up in two lines, through which the bride walks toward her new home in an atmosphere of singing and chanting
Wedding Traditions In Turkey
A Muslim wedding program in Turkey lasts from four to seven days, starting with separate celebrations of the bride and groom's families. From this dy on, the couple getting married cannot see each other until their wedding ceremony.
A Turkish bride might wear a beautiful embroidered silk wedding dress with a red velvet cape.
Wedding ceremonies a colorful part of Nigerian life
Weddings all over the world are joyous social events that bring people from all walks of life together.
In Nigeria's past, couples were usually joined together in an elaborate traditional ceremony, but with the advent of Christianity and Islam, weddings are now divided into the traditional wedding, also called the engagement ceremony, and the Christian or Muslim wedding ceremony. To save money, some couples have taken to having both the traditional wedding and the white wedding on the same day.
The wedding ceremony and the reception in honor of the bride and groom, usually reflect the financial status of the families. If a family is very rich or popular, they usually use invitation cards to weed out "intruders." These weddings attract the creme de la creme of society.
The three main tribes in Nigeria -- the Yorubas, the Ibos and the Hausas -- usually have certain stereotypes attached to them. Both Yorubas and Ibos are notorious for spending money and having all-night parties. The Fulanis are notorious for flogging young suitors with a horsewhip, and the suitor who endures to the very end, marries the girl.
In times past, a very common practice in Yoruba weddings was for the father and mother of the groom to prostrate and kneel down, respectively, before the parents of the bride, but this custom is no longer practiced, probably due to the creaking of old bones. Another common practice is to wash the feet of the new bride, but some families skip this part of the ceremony because of spiritual reasons. The master of ceremony at the reception usually fabricates a funny story of how the couple met, even though they might have met under ordinary circumstances.
Central to Nigerian weddings are the caterers popularly called "iya agoyin." These lovely ladies are mostly from the neighboring country of Togo, but some of them are Nigerians, and their job is to take care of all the cooking and all that entails.
Most cooking takes place outside the bride or groom's house, and the meals are prepared on wood fire. A lot of families prefer to have a relative or friend keep an eye on these ladies because huge chunks of beef and some cooking ingredients have been known to mysteriously disappear when these ladies are not properly supervised. You can sometimes see these ladies wolfing down huge chunks of beef while they are cooking.
It is no secret all around the world that when you invite one Nigerian to a wedding, 20 Nigerians show up and worse, they all expect to be served equally. A common way to get the waiters attention is to try to grab them when they go by and say, "Please, you have not served us here." In Nigeria, any wedding that does not adequately provide for its guests, invited and uninvited, is usually portrayed in a negative light. Nigerians love to eat and foods like pounded yam, eba, amala, different types of vegetable soups mixed with beef, fish and whatnot, jollof and fried rice.
The decorations at the reception and at the place of worship usually reflect the battle of wills and conflict of interest, the two families engage in, over wedding plans.
Both sides want to take over every aspect of the wedding and no side wants to concede to the other. The families usually settle their differences in opinion by wearing different colors on the groom and bride's side.
Nigerians usually judge a good wedding by the bridal gown, the groom's suit and the clothes of the bridal train. The parade of cars at the wedding ceremony are also a way to determine the class of the groom or bride because certain cars like jeeps are more expensive than others.
Weddings in Nigeria are very colorful and interesting, and it is this aspect of our culture, that we cling to as a people.
